Tuesday, July 13, 2010

Coast to Coast

Back on the road... In the past 7 Days I have went from Home to California to WV almost to DC..

Been a busy couple of weeks for me at work. I had another California trip. I got to go to Sequoia National Park and it was beautiful. The only problem was it was not the same... If my family was there it would have been a great trip.

There is something about heading west that i am always anxious about. I am not sure if it is the insecurity of not knowing anything about the area or if its the fact if something happens at home I am at least a day's worth of travel away.

The stress from traveling takes the a toll on the family. My Wife gets stressed that makes me get stressed and the kids act out because they miss me. So after a long discussion between my wife and I we are setting goals and arraigning out fiances so I can either work from home or my wife and I can start a business from home.

I can't wait until the day that my morning commute is from the living room to the office. We might have to make some sacrifices but in the long run we will have a happy family and that is the most important.

One of my favorite sayings is the following

Years from now..

It will not have mattered what car I drove or how much money I have made..

Only if I can make a different in the life of a child..

I always think of that and it puts life into perspective.

There is nothing more important than your family and friends.....

Until the next time..

Travel Safe....

Up Next... Camping with the kids..

Sunday, June 20, 2010

Home at Last!!!

I have finally reached a time in my schedule that allows me to be home for a few days.... But with a price....

I am home and have a long weekend planned .. I want to go camping.. actual camping..tent... fire the whole nine.. I know that my time home is short lived and I will be back on the road soon but I want to help my kids have great memories of the times that we are together..

In two weeks I start on a marathon traveling spree.... WV to California to WV to home.. I will have a few days home in that stretch but only a few. From the 29Th of June to the 14Th of July I am on the road and will miss my kids..

Today being Fathers day I want to reflect on my memories when I was a kid...

My Dad is a hard working man always has been.. He worked the same job until he was forced to leave it about a year ago.

My Dad is my idol.. I hope that I can provide for my family half as much as he did for us growing up. My Dad was a restaurant manager and anyone that has ever worked in that field knows its a bunch of long hours and late nights..

In the summer I would force my self to stay up and wait for him just to get a little time with him. He would bring us home food and we would sit there and talk and eat with him..

My Dad never got to rest he always was busy.. I am proud that he is my father..

I wish I could help him now.. He was let go by his company after 40+ years.. I wish he would come live with us but he has other plans..

Happy Fathers Day Dad.. I love you

Tuesday, June 15, 2010

Traveling Again

June and July are going to be busy months for me and traveling. I feel like my mail should be forwarded to the Holiday Inn....

I miss my wife and my kids so badly when I am on the road. But I try to keep myself busy when I am gone. I picked up a great new hobby in the last month...photography!!!!

I am starting with landscapes and scenery since I will be in California and West Virginia in the next month but I find it relaxing to walk around the City or to take a drive in the country to look for shots.

We also celebrated Little D's 4th Birthday this past weekend. After Mrs D and I worked our butts off for 3 weeks the party is over and it was a success.

Baby D Started on some solid foods this past week as well. Se liked it but was mad when it was all gone!!! I was so happy that I got to be there for those two big milestones.

My Son is becoming quite the baseball player now. He is consistently hitting home runs and is the best player on his team. Recently he tried out for a traveling team and we are still waiting to hear the results.
So life is good right now... until next time Daddy D is signing off....

Sunday, June 6, 2010

New Beginnings

This past week I got to see some family that I have not seen in over 10 years. I got to spend some time with my Grandma on my Dads side.
This trip was a great one. I spent time with my Family that I have not seen in a long time. Growing up we never really went to my Dads families houses or went to visit so I missed out ton those relationships that were never there. But this week that changed. I got to spend time with my Dads sister and brother.
My Dads brother is a nice man. You would never guess that they were twins by looking at them. He is a religious man and does the best that he can.
My Dads sister on the other hand is a real trooper. She survived Cancer and at 54 you would not believe the things that she does. She plays drums in her church band. Just dug a septic system by herself. Build a Deck and here is the kicker.... She hunts. In her house there are antlers from deer and a stuffed Black Bear that she shot herself. She is a truly amazing woman. I hope to later this year take my family down there so they will not miss out on the things that I did. I know that my Aunt would be a great role model for our daughters on how to be an independent woman. I hope that Mrs D and I always have a good relationship with both sides of the family as it is important to our children growing up to know all of our family..

Thursday, May 27, 2010

The Struggle

As a Dad and a Husband I seem to face an ever growing challenge. How do I fit it all in?

I work hard to support my family. As you can tell by the title of my blog I travel a lot. So this always is a challenge for me and my family.

I want to start out by saying that I try to do it all but sometimes it just cant be done.

I have a great relationship with my wife and our two daughters. The relationship with my son is not so easy.

Big D and I have our challenges. Mostly because of his mother. She tries to keep him away from me and she does everything in her power to make that happen. When Big D is here he is happy.He smiles and plays and does other thing beside what his standard answer when I call him.... "Playing Video Games".
We try hard to have great weekends when he comes down. We make time for us to do fun things as a family. And we still have some Daddy and Big D time.
I call him almost everyday and rarely do I get a call back. I text him ... no response. This put a great deal of pressure on me. I feel guilty that I cant see him or that I feel like he does not want me around.
This puts great pressure on my other relationships. Mommy D understands where I am coming from but it frustrates her that there is nothing that we can do right now.
So I try to be all things to all people.

A great Husband..
A good Father...
A good Employee..
A good Friend...

And when I cant do it all I get frustrated and shut down which is not fair to my family. I often get afraid that i am slipping into depression and I cant dig my way out. I know I cant please everyone all the time but I try....
To my family I am sorry that I cant be all those things. I love you all...

Friday, May 14, 2010

Coming Home

There is always something special about going home after a week away....

I wont get in until 2am but I will get to see my kids even if they are only sleeping. My wife will wake up with that cute "Sleepy Face" we will talk for a few minutes and then off to slumber..

The next morning our LittleD and BabyD will wake up and I will truly know that I am home.

It's funny, LittleD had mommy send me a text message " After Grandma comes over, DaddyD comes home and He misses me so much and I miss him too. I am SOOO excited" Getting these littel messages lets me know that things are gonna be great when I get home.

This trip has a short time home but the next trip is only 1 1/2 days.... Then a few days off to focus on the family.

We get to pick up BigD this weekend so it should be a great weekend too..

How do you make the kids feel special after a long trip?

Thursday, May 13, 2010

Adventures in Cali

I am currently on a trip to California. I drew the shortest straw.. So I am 2200 miles away from home and missing my family.

My trips are usually shorter and If they are longer I can take my family with me. But this one was out west so I am coping again with the struggles of missing my family.

The trip started off well enough but my day of departure was mothers day. I felt like I was abandoning MrsD on Mothers Day. We did try to celebrate that morning. I got her a small but sentimental gift. We got to hang out most of the morning and then at 12:30 I had to get to the airport to catch my flight.

The trip was pretty uneventful but I had a feeling that some thing was going to go wrong.So at 8pm on Mothers Day i arrived in Fresno California.

I was picked up by the Project Manager and we headed to the hotel.

Monday morning I was feeling the jet lag. I woke up at 5 am thinking it was later and at 7 we went to work.

I usually train average workers to teach our software but this trip was special. These were "professional trainers" I use that term very loosely.

The day started and so did the questions. What about this... What about that.. Then I realized that the Project Manager did not communicate the expectations of Train the Trainer. So after day 1 was finally over things were not going well.

On Tuesday, we started with a different approach thanks to my over promising PM. When I woke up that day I had a horrible headache and a stomach ache that would not go away.I excused my self and ran to the bathroom and got sick.I pressed on...

We went to lunch and I could not eat.. I took 3 bites and new that I had to stop. We got back to work and I entered the room the class worked quietly on their presentations that were going to start that afternoon. I got a hot flash and booked it for the door thinking that if I could get some fresh air I would be okay.

I got outside and walked to the sun to warm up.. after all it is Cali. After a few second I realized I was going to be sick. I made an attempt to get up the stairs to the bathroom.I WAS NOT GOING TO MAKE IT!! So back outside I went.I walked out and saw my PM and he pointed me to the bushes away from the building.. I got sick again.

So my PM went inside and he got me some stuff to clean up with and with that I was on my way back to the hotel. This was the first time in 10 years that I went home sick. I felt horrible.

My PM drops me off and I fall asleep.

Meanwhile back at work the "professional trainers" that I mentioned we not exactly that. they began the presentations and it went wrong ... horribly wrong. They were fighting and the PM let it go on. So nothing got done while I was at the hotel sleeping.

Later that after noon.. I called home to talk to my wife. I heard the horrible news. My 3 yr old daughter was sick with the same thing that I had.

So here I am 2200 miles away from home and sick. I am 2200 miles away from my daughter who is sick. I felt horrible that I could not be there for her.

So I talked to my family and I went to bed and slept for 10 hours. The next day I felt great.

So I headed of to work and the day went much better.

If there are any daddy's that travel.. how do you get over the guilt of not being there for your sick child?

How to you keep in touch with your family when you are so far away.